Have you ever wondered how exactly you got to the unhappy or emotionally unhealthy place you find yourself? You know, that place where you are full of intense feelings of frustration or anger toward people you genuinely care about. It could be your spouse, your children, or even co-workers.
It seems that oftentimes, we start off calm in difficult situations, and then, as things continue going differently than we had hoped or envisioned, or we feel unheard or unappreciated, we find ourselves hurt. And that hurt can lead to feelings of sadness. And then, if we don’t catch ourselves there, our hurt turns from sad to mad.
Our voice gets louder, and we find ourselves desperate to be heard. But our loud and angry voice doesn’t bring any real power. It brings action, at best, but it doesn’t increase respect or encourage long-term change.
Instead, we’ve got to learn to use our calm voice, at appropriate times, to clearly communicate our hurts, as well as our needs or expectations and potential consequences.
If you find that your unresolved hurts have landed you somewhere on the sad to mad spectrum, you might benefit from some help navigating your way back through those emotions, identifying the deeper hurts that exist. Sometimes we do not even realize we have unresolved hurts that are impacting so many different areas of our life.
Reach out to one of our therapists in McKinney, or North Dallas, and they would be happy to help you process your deeper hurts. Your parenting, your marriage, and even your work relationships all stand to benefit from you taking this step toward healing.